HARK Newsletter - July 2003 Issue

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Welcome to the HARK Monthly Spiritual Newsletter.

In this month's newsletter:

1. Inspirational quotations
2. Announcing our new web site.
3. SPECIAL OFFERS for JULY - discount on readings for newsletter subscribers
4. Article - Energy Games : Drama and Chaos
5. Telephone Readings
6. and FINALLY...

1. INSPIRATIONAL QUOTATIONS:

'Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace within the storm', author unknown

'There are people who want to be everywhere at once and they seem to get nowhere' Carl Sandberg *

'The wheel that squeaks the loudest is the one that gets the grease', Josh Billings *

'Those who cry the loudest have generally the least to sell', Edna Lyall *

* Quotations from "Out of the Mouths of Crocodiles.. ..The Wisdom of Man" compiled by James G Salerno & Deborah A Hlawa.

2. NEW WEB SITE

< < < ANNOUNCING OUR NEW WEB SITE > > >

Along with changing the look and feel of the web site and hopefully making it easier to find your way round, we have added a new section for self-help and self improvement. In it you will find articles on issues related to personal growth, spiritual development, health, divination, along with the free horoscopes, soup for the soul, glossary etc..

We will be adding to this section with more information related to health and well-being in the near future.

We will also be introducing more readers and healers over the coming months, so WATCH THIS SPACE!

3. SPECIAL OFFERS for JULY 2003

SPECIAL OFFER on CHILD ASTROLOGY CHART - for newsletter subscribers

Buy now in July at HALF THE NORMAL PRICE.

This chart is a "blueprint" to guide your child's development with informed confidence. Written for the parent to allow a better understanding of their child's strengths and weaknesses, their process of learning and how best the parent can guide their child in their successful growth to adulthood.

This is normally AUD$40 (approx. US$24), but until the 31st July 2003 it is available for only AUD$20 (approx. US$12) to newsletter subscribers.

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4. ARTICLE "Energy Games - Drama and Chaos"

- by Julie Hargreaves

Have you ever wondered why some people go through life in a whirlwind of chaos, while everyone else is just calmly getting on with life? Things just seem to "happen" to some people more than to others. They lurch from one crisis to the next, often have more accidents or illnesses, live hand to mouth, but never really get on top of life. While most people might experience life in small bite sized chunks (such as a grazed knee or walking home because they missed the bus), there are those who seem to get great big boulders of experience hurtled at them from out of the blue. (Broken leg in plaster and hospitalised for weeks or missed the bus, missed the appointment, didn't get the job, need a hand out to pay the electric bill!)

However, they are usually not alone in their chaos - just as hurricanes suck in anything not firmly fixed to the ground, other people are often drawn into their dramas and get caught up in the maelstrom.

Why does this happen? Is god picking on them? Are they suffering "karma" for being "bad" in a past life? Did they get short-changed in the birth day queue?

Or is there something else that is compensating on a sub-conscious level for all the angst?

To understand what is going on we need to stand far enough back from the dramas so that we are able to see more clearly the patterns within the chaos and appreciate what is really going on and what roles are being played in the unfolding "energy game".

As in most games, there are a number of players interacting - in this case all trying to hang on to their own ball (or energy) and the one who collects the most balls is the winner. However, the playing field is not level, there may be more than one game going on at the same time, there are no pre-defined teams and players may change sides as well as the rules whenever they want!

In the "Drama and Chaos" game there is usually a central player around which everything else revolves. Sometimes labelled a Drama Queen, when things start to get unbalanced there is usually a regularly occurring drama going on in their life and a continuous set of players who are always on hand to help out with the latest crisis. This may be a willing partner or friend, or just passing acquaintances, but there is always a supply of help to take care of the kids, make a loan till pay day, make allowances because they know they're going through a bad time and generally pick up the pieces and sort out the ensuing mess.

The energy game can start through something simple and innocuous - such as asking others the time because the queen doesn't have a watch/can't wear one/it's broken. This already creates a precedent of supplying help in times of need and at the same time is setting up possible excuses for the next drama (being late and missing out) with reasons that point the finger of responsibility somewhere else other than the queen eg "I don't have a watch and you didn't remind me what time it is".

It is usually more often a woman than a man who plays the Drama game - generations of stereo-typing of men as big, tough and strong and women as helpless and needing protection have put the triggers in place for this energy game to take place. However, it is not exclusive to women, men sometimes opting for a variation called "I'm Not Domesticated And Need A Good Woman" or perhaps "Genius/Artist/Mad Scientist And Unaware of Earthly Realities".

However, let's not think that there is just one big energy sucker at the middle of this energy game - it wouldn't happen, if there were no other players. For example alongside the Drama Queen may be a "Stoic Wanting T.L.C", who will have a circle of supporters to make up the energy losses from feeding the Queen. Or, there could also be a number of "Doormats in the Making" - friends and relatives who have a highly developed sense of responsibility and caring and who are more than willing to jump in and deal with the fall-out from the passing hurricane. There will also be an ongoing supply of "Making Allowances" from lesser players, who will join in the game for a while until all their generosity has been used up and the realisation has dawned that they regularly get less out of the relationship than they put in. These will drift in and out of the game, as they get used up and new players are sought.

There is quite a complex interaction of players going on - but there is one important fact that maintains the dynamics of the game - there is one overall direction of flow of energy, usually towards one person in the centre. The person to whom "everything just happens" and to whom it is "never their fault".

So, having recognised that you're "in the game" what do you do to "get out of it"?

First of all, a good test to see who is gaining and who is losing is to ask yourself how you feel in relation to the other players. Overall, do you feel drained, put upon, or used by them? Do you feel you gained from them? Or does it feel balanced with equal give and take?

If you're a lesser player, one of the "Making Allowances", then it depends on how much credit you give them to start with, how quickly it runs out or how soon you recognise the game. You can start by making all interactions with them clear and not being pushed into "Making Allowances" beyond what you deem to be reasonable. Be careful, as it is very easy to go from "Making Allowances" to "Doormat in the Making" and after saying NO it might cost you something by "Feeling Guilty". Most likely at some point, you will decide that enough is enough and just leave the game, feeling a bit short-changed but also a bit wiser for the experience.

If you're a "Doormat in the Making", you need to be very, very careful and start drawing the line about how much help you are willing to give. You need to stop being the prop so that the Queen can have an opportunity to learn to take responsibility for their own actions. Teenagers are a good example of this process - the average teenager leaves a trail of debris and disorder around them, as they expect someone else to clean up after them. It is also never their fault - "the dog ate my homework", or "the alarm didn't go off", or "I don't know where the vacuum's kept". But eventually they will leave home and have to take responsibility for themselves, which means dealing with the consequences of their actions and cleaning up their own mess. Most of them will find it in themselves to do this, but of course there will always be some who will find someone else to do it for them! So, for your own sake you need to be clear about your own boundaries, so that you don't become a doormat generally (and all the games that go along with that position!).

If you're the "Drama Queen" or the "Stoic Looking for T.L.C", then it's time for a really long and hard look at how YOU interact with others and to recognise what is going on around you. It is also important to understand that your own sub-conscious mind will create situations around you that reinforce your thoughts and words. Start to evaluate the words that you speak about yourself - do you put yourself down all the time, do you expect bad things to happen, do you reinforce that you can't cope with life or that you don't deserve anything better?

Self analysis is one key to personal growth - and I mean be really, really honest with yourself here - you can't tell yourself lies and expect your sub-conscious not to be listening! The other key is self-love - if you don't love yourself, why do you expect others will?

We'll all go out to eat food once in a while that someone else has cooked. However, energy games are more akin to living off fast food and take-aways because we never learned how to cook or because it seems easier than making our own! We ultimately pay a big price for this approach - used up friendships, lack of fulfilment, ill health and unachieved goals.

Eventually if you realise that IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF AND YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - YOU DON'T NEED TO PLAY GAMES TO GET OTHER PEOPLE'S ENERGY. And once you have that recipe, you can keep on feeding yourself with a nourishing diet that helps you to live long and prosper.

5. TELEPHONE READINGS

If you live in Australia, you can also obtain readings by telephone from one of our experienced psychic readers who will provide the answers to your questions using Tarot, Clairvoyance, Numerology and other Psychic Gifts.

PHONE THIS NUMBER - 1902 293 525 - calls charged at $4.345 per minute (mobiles & public phones extra).
All of our psychic readers are professional and caring and can help you with difficult life choices, relationship issues or give you guidance from spiritual guides.
Our psychic readers will not keep you talking longer than necessary.

6. AND FINALLY ...

There was a doctor, an engineer and a computer scientist sitting around one evening discussing which was the oldest profession.

The doctor said that according to the Bible, God created Eve from Adam's rib. This would obviously require surgery and therefore the oldest profession in the world must be medicine.

The engineer disagreed and mentioned that an earlier passage in the Bible stated that God had created order from Chaos, which would have been the biggest engineering project ever. So that proved that his profession was the oldest in the world.

The computer scientist leaned back in her chair and with a sly smile said "Yes, but who do you think created the chaos?"

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